Blog 18: Your Inalienable Right to Happiness
You’ve heard it said that you have been endowed by your Creator with certain inalienable rights, one of which is the pursuit of happiness.
Have you thought much about that lately?
I suspect your thoughts have been more specific, like about money, kids, politics, or vacation.
What is happiness in your experience? How do you pursue it?
Huge sections of bookstores around the world are loaded with books containing the “secret” to happiness in varying terms.
Google the word and prepare for almost unending pages of links. I decided to top off that mountain of information with a simple tweak: “You experience true happiness when you stop considering or caring what anyone else says or thinks about you.”
The key here is “anyone else”. You keep caring what you say about you, but ignore what others might say.
Of course this does not mean you can behave like a cross between a crocodile and a queen bee and then say, “I can do what I want because I don’t care what anyone thinks.” Often people who make that declaration publicly are lying to themselves. They care so much it hurts.
Imagine what it would feel like to truly accept who you are. You get up in the morning, put on clean clothes, look in the mirror and say, “Hey there, you’re looking good this morning.” You stay in that mindset all the way to work.
You enter and a co-worker sighs and stage-whispers, “Here comes trouble.”
So what? You don’t care. Because you feel fine, you greet him with a response such as, “Nice shirt, Bill. Is it new?” Your boss growls in and complains to everyone about sloppy work. “Too damned many mistakes.” He turns to you and says, “There were three, three I say, glaring errors in the report you turned in yesterday.”
Because you don’t feel the least bit defensive, you say, “Jeez, I’m sorry. I’ll be more careful today.” You don’t make excuses. You don’t blame the secretary who turned in your report before you had a chance to proofread it.
You don’t care what your boss thinks of you.
You know what you think of you and that’s all that matters. Want to know more? email firstname.lastname@example.org with subject: Your Inalienable Right
I will send you the rest.