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Blog 7: How to Let Go

July 26th, 2013 Evelyn Cole

Because I love the English language and its amazing flexibility, because I love thought-provoking ideas and because I understand the machinations and power of the subconscious mind and its daily effects, I am offering you my thoughts and some unusual quotations.

Here’s today’s: “The child is father of the man.” William Wordsworth

That line has always intrigued me. What we perceive as children makes up our current reality and influences our thoughts as adults. And our thoughts govern our actions. If we want different results in our lives we need to investigate the early childhood perceptions that formed our current conclusions about ourselves in the world.

“The value of truth is absolute, its nature subjective.” Russell Allen

Do you agree? Rusty Allen was a student of mine who came to my class once every two weeks for two years. The rest of the time he hid in a garage and read philosophy, psychology and related literature. At the end of two years of intensive reading, he distilled his reading into three “aphorisms toward the meaning of existence.”

His second aphorism: “The righteousness of a belief is inherent unto the believer.” This is self-explanatory. You get stories on this from the Middle East every day.

His third: “Eros: All thought begins with the body.” The body begins at birth, is not separate from the mind, and definitely creates thought. Only 2% of the mind works in words. Most of the information we receive comes in a massive flow of images to all our senses. Our conscious minds interpret these messages. How we interpret them determines how we feel and think.

The body is a field of energy. Emotions are E (energy) in Motion. Because feelings of inadequacy, despair, anger, resentment, hate, love, and joy are emotions, they are momentary.

They are in motion, moving on, unless we fight ourselves to keep them.

I have been using the Sedona method to let them go, all of them. You can, too. It’s wonderfully freeing. All you do is ask yourself, “Do I want to keep this feeling? Can I let it go? When can I let it go?”

Give it a date and time and then let it go.

I give this freeing method to some of the characters in my novels and let others hang on to negative feelings, to their detriment and to enhance the plot.

Here’s a relevant poem of mine:

The girl leans over the balustrade.
Mother in seal skin coat, long gloves
flicks a quick wave upward, then
clicks across their flag-stone exit hall.

Willing her mother to return to
the vaulted living room,
she leans too far, falls to the floor.
No screams. No tears. Not allowed.

A boulder three times her size
fills her chest. She tries to breathe.
A solid lump grows in her throat.
It stays for days.


Ever since, whenever she falls for love
opens her chest to life-sized life,
the lump returns at the slightest slight.
No screams, of course. No tears.

It would stay for days without this song.
Without my song




Written by Evelyn Cole

Evelyn Cole

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