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Blog 9: Shame On Guilt!

July 26th, 2013 Evelyn Cole

Weight loss: it’s the number one craze and obsession of millions of Americans. But why then is it so hard for many of us to establish and maintain control of our weight?

Hale Dwoskin, the New York Times best-selling author of The Sedona Method believes that the root cause of diet failure is due to issues of guilt and shame.

“One of the ways,” he writes, “that we unwittingly sabotage our success while dieting, or while trying to achieve and maintain our ideal weight, is with the feelings of guilt and shame. Most of us have guilt and shame associated with how our bodies look and what we eat or do not eat. In fact most people feel some guilt at every meal even if they are eating what most people would
agree is healthy, weight maintaining or even slimming foods.”

If Dwoskin is right, the amount of guilt or shame we experience at a meal depends on our parents’ attitude toward us when we first started feeding ourselves and complaining about the food. This is hard to remember but easier to release now. If you are aware of guilt or shame, ask yourself if you can let go of that feeling. Then ask yourself when you can let go of it. Finally, give yourself an exact date and time. Then at that time, release it.

When planning a dinner party it’s a good idea to climb out of your astrological sign and assess the degree of guilt each of your guests might feel about your menu. Also, it helps to provide two entrees so your guests can make a choice. I did that recently because I planned to serve salmon on a bed of creamy cabbage and feared some might not want to eat cream. They ate both entrees,
without guilt.

Shame on guilt and shame! Worthless feelings. Bring them up and toss them in the wastebasket.


Written by Evelyn Cole

Evelyn Cole

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