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Blog 20: Your Thoughts Create Your Daily Life

July 26th, 2013 Evelyn Cole

They really do.

If you think there’s something radically wrong with some people, you are, in fact, criticizing yourself as you separate yourself from “them”.

If you feel a basic connection to other creatures, including the people you work with, you  define yourself as joyful, generous, and interesting—validating your connection with “them”.

If you think that life is hard, it is hard.

If you trust in a benevolent universe, it’s easy.

If you believe you are all alone, you are alone. But, if you surrender this belief, along with your ego, and accept your vulnerability in this magical universe, you’ll never walk alone.

If you think you can’t do anything right because you’re left handed, you can’t do many things right. ( I know this one from stark experience.)

When you change your thoughts, you change your life.

For example, I thought I could make a living marketing online by setting up and managing my own cyber-city.  I had the plan, the motivation, the intent.

But after each frustrating setback with my use of the technology, I concluded that 1) I was too left-handed and impatient to learn the technology and its language, 2) I didn’t have the right equipment, and 3) I couldn’t do anything right.

That conclusion created my daily life and made it hell.  I worked long hours every day, seven days a week.  I changed from a Mac to a PC and still couldn’t build my cyber-city.  When I finally broke, emotionally as well as financially, I learned from several sources that my thoughts were creating my daily life.

I changed my thinking. (Actually, thoughts are the only thing in this world that we can change.)  I stopped replaying old tapes of other people’s descriptions of me.  I stopped believing I was working all alone.  I stopped comparing myself with others, putting myself on a low rung of some hierarchical ladder. And I replaced self-denigrating thoughts with kind ones; cynical thoughts about people and politics with images of surrender to what is—to acceptance of what is.

In doing so, I brought balance and joy back into my life.  I know now that I don’t want to master the technology, and, ipso facto, succeed at living.

It’s not easy to break habits of thought, but the impact of doing so may be profound.

May you create a wonderful day today.

 

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Written by Evelyn Cole

Evelyn Cole




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